The most important thing that we need to understand is that behaviour is a form of communication; it is a language within its self. It is, in fact normal for children to behave in challenging ways at different stages and in particular situations. If you can understand why your child behaves in a particular way, we can work out how best to respond.
Understanding the developmental reasons and emotions behind our child’s
behaviour doesn’t mean you can ignore challenging behaviour, but it does
help you work out how to respond. Also, knowing what’s typical at
different stages and in different circumstances help you know whether you
need extra help with your child’s behaviour.
When people behave in a way that challenges us, we often question why
they're behaving in this way. We must consider the origins of the behaviour and what the message behind the behaviour might be, this will help you to understand the meaning behind the actions and help avoid attaching labels to a person.
Behaviour management is about guiding your child’s behaviour so that
they learn the appropriate way to behave. Behaviours that are repeated
have some sort of function. Identifying the function of behaviour means
investigating why that behaviour is occurring. This means looking at what
happens before (antecedents), during (the behaviour itself) and after the
behaviour (consequence) – known as the ABC approach. After multiple
observations of the behaviour, one can begin to form a hypothesis or
theory on why the behaviour may occur and when it is likely to occur.
No single behaviour management strategy will fix everything. Some
strategies might work better than others for your family and situation. You’ll probably have to use a few strategies in combination. ASD and ME will help you to identify the theory behind the behaviour and provide guidance to implement some evidence-based strategies